Relationships As God Intended
Relationships in any form are beautiful, whether it be a relationship with, family, friends, colleagues, family, business partner spouse or children. It is mostly built upon love, mutual interest, professional or business needs, etc. It’s called a relationship because you choose & want to be part of it and it’s intentional at its purest. At its best, it exemplifies the relationship that God the Father extends to His son and us. It is embracing and wishes the best of others, while it empowers and nurtures with the intent that both parties would be better off than if the relationship never existed.
While we know that there are many spheres of relationship, we also know that healthy relationships are what make good societies and communities what they are, whether it is relationships in the home, amongst the communities that one is involved in, or across nations and governments. It emphasises the need to be intentionally present and share with one another as we saw in the life of Christ with his disciples as well as the example of the early church as they fellowship regularly together.
We also know that healthy relationship between nations fosters peace across borders and the world, and it is the same with all relationships. Therefore, as they say, “It takes two to tango” whether it be a business or personal relationship. You have to want to or choose to be in a relationship in any form. I sometimes compare relationships to a circle and we choose of our own accord to step into, without anyone cajoling or appealing to us to do so…..It’s just so much fun that way!
One thing a relationship is not is that it’s never a mountain to climb! It is not where one person, community or business associate desires a relationship in one form or the other and assumes the other party must climb their mountain to relate with them except of cause if is with a troubled or dysfunction child that seems out of reach and one needs to nurture them back into the fold and teach them how to relate well, based on mutual respect and intentional honouring of one another.
Like our relationship with the Lord, it is borne out of our free will to engage and fellowship but never a mountain to climb. Just imagine if the Lord says to you that, you require courage and mental strength to relate to him. That would mean that He is no longer a loving and good Father :Could it be that the world would be a better place if individuals, communities and nations, as well as families, recognise and understand the true depth of relationship as God intended, that at its core it is first MUTUAL and to remain wholesome it must be nurtured!
Recently, I’ve heard people insinuate on many occasions the need to be courageous or mentally strong to relate to one another, which I believe is a hugely flawed mindset. To me, that is a sign of an unhealthy or diseased relationship. It’s certainly not a sign of a healthy relationship as the Lord intended nor the way He relates to any of us. Instead, love, mutual respect, mutual interest, understanding and a willingness to engage with another are what foster healthy relationships. The very need within oneself to be present in that relationship is the strength on which fellowship is built upon.
We need courage & mental strength to deal with relationships that have become cancerous, and therefore we need to redefine what those are and give them a new name……It is no longer a relationship! As they say in accountancy, when an asset becomes a liability it can no longer be called an asset, you have to rename it!
As we journey in life, we would meet both sets of mindset, those who want a relationship borne out of love, mutual respect, common interest or business requirement and you will also encounter those with a mindset that relating with them somehow require you to have a huge amount of courage and mental strength! Choose to engage with the first group of people as it is how the Father intended relationships to be; it is how the Lord Jesus exemplified relationship to us while he was here on earth.
The truth is that in my journey whilst I’ve met both groups, I’m always amazed when I meet folks who verbally or non-verbally inform me with no shadow of doubt, how difficult a person/or group of people they are and how I have to work hard at engaging with them, some will even go as far as to inform me of how they will stretch me in their association with me, this always leave me with the same thoughts that “Why would you believe I want to engage with you with that mindset”. While I’ve met others I immediately hit it off on a fantastic platform and conversation and fellowship is effortless and with little effort you receive from one another and are blessed through those associations: Friends and brethren, choose to use your energy wisely! Whilst all relationships need to be nurtured it need not be a mountain you climb!